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Isis, mother ofthe Moon, your power this night bring to me soon. Your silver radiance on me shine, your fertile light now strengthen mine. Full moon, full glory, fill my heart, your loving wisdom to me impart. Mother Isis, your child I call, uplift and guide me lest I fall.
I also remember a curious case from the primeval times of South America. A father brought his son to me, who was a child of a young age. He did so in order for me to prescribe medicine to the child who had fallen grievously sick by pestilence. The child's fatal outcome was inevitable. Consequently, I told the child's father, I will cure your child, but because he is already a lost case, you have to give him to me as an adoptive son.
In our experience, the breaking up of a family system may, in some circumstances, be the most beneficial outcome for the family members in terms of their ability to change and grow thus, the most acceptable outcome rather than the least acceptable. One case of this which will be clear to the reader is that of the family system with an identified patient schizophrenic who is struggling to free himself from the patterns of family interaction in which he is trapped.
The last section provided you with an example of how a family system is evolved. We will now present a series of tactics to accomplish this task. However, we do remind you that the overall strategy should remain constant when employing these tactics. That is, evolving a family system implies that, after comparing the relationship between input output channels and the resulting fuzzy functions, the family rules are compared with the reference structure desired by the family members. The evolution of the system will require first, changing those areas of the family members' models which are impoverished in some way which prohibits the evolving of the desired reference structure. The family members must learn that their map is not the territory, and that the changes are more acceptable than the rules which prevented them. This can be accomplished in the following ways
What we have noticed time and time again is that the distribution of representational systems and Satir categories in family systems and in polarities is the same. Specifically, in Part II of this volume, we pointed out that the most frequent and effective incongruity-into-polarity sorting was a sorting which resulted in two polarities one, a visual Satir category 2 and the other, a kinesthetic Satir category 1. Parallelly, in the context of couples and family systems work, the most frequent distribution of representational systems and Satir categories is one in which one of the parenting family members is a visual Satir category 2 and the other, a kinesthetic Satir category 1. For the moment, we restrict ourselves to a discussion of the minimum family system the couple. This particular pattern of distribution of representational systems and Satir categories makes sense to us. Specifically, consider the Meta-tactic for incongruity work of playing polarity. A therapist wishes to elicit...
Beneficial effect in working with the family, the therapist's objective is to assist the family in evolving to the identified desirable state, while simultaneously changing the coping patterns so that other disturbances, not identified initially by the family members but which might subsequently arise, can be dealt with in a creative way by the family itself. In system terms, this is known as morphogenesis. The type of system which is characteristically morphogenetic is the open system a system which is responsive to its environment and readily adapts itself to disturbances in an acceptable and creative manner. While an open system is the most desirable outcome of family therapy, this is a difficult goal to achieve. Furthermore, family therapy is conducted in the real world with real time constraints on both the family and the therapist. Consistent with the principle of operating with the family as an organism, the therapist must employ a set of techniques which will assist the family...
As in any form of therapy, the therapist, himself, serves as a model for communication. In beginning therapy with a family, we have found it particularly useful to be very direct about what the goals of the therapy will be. Specifically, we have found it useful to ask each of the family members directly to state what he wants from the therapeutic session. This may be accomplished by asking any of the following questions What are your hopes for yourself and your family in therapy How, specifically, would you like you and your family to change What do you want for yourself and your family If you could change yourself and your family in any way you want, what changes would you make How would you and your family be different if you all changed in the very best of ways from this experience therapy conditions. In addition, as each of the family members reply, he will unconsciously select predicates which will reveal to the attentive therapist what his representational systems are. The...
The most skilled practitioners of powwowing are born into it and inherit such paranormal abilities as clairvoyance and precognition, as well as the ability to heal by a laying on of hands. Both women and men are powwowers in fact, some of the most powerful are men. According to tradition, the SEVENTH SON OF A SEVENTH SON inherits unusual powers. The offspring of powwowers are schooled verbally in the lore only by family members. In some families, the knowledge is passed from one gender to another, while in others it is passed along the same gender lines. The apprentice powwowers may try for their first cures while still children. Other names for powwowers are hex doctor, witch, hexenmeister and braucher. A hexenmeister deals in spirit-conjuring, spells and hexes, while a braucher deals with healing. Powwowers consider them
Great ideas for sharing your reverence for the Earth with your children. The Family Wicca Book The Craft for Parents & Children, by Ashleen O'Gaea. Down to earth advice on sharing the Wiccan religion with your children, parents, and other family members, whether you are an experienced or brand new Wiccan. Coming in October 2002 Raising Witches Teaching the Pagan Faith to Children. Circle Round Raising Children in Goddess Traditions, by Starhawk, Diane Baker, and Anne Hill. Ways to teach children an Earth-centered spirituality, using songs, stories, and simple rites.
Not everything you use for magick must be of ancient origin, however. Even your computer can be a magical tool, used to draw magick circles. You can draw figures to represent lovers, estranged family members or yourself and a baby you hope to conceive and draw them closer with your mouse until they join. You can draw a square on the screen and enclose in it anything you wish to bind from harming you, perhaps the name of a destructive habit or a malicious person, and send it to the recycle bin where the energies will be transformed.
* Spend the morning out of doors, if possible, collecting greenery, or making tiny clay figures of the Nativity figures, santons as they are called in France, to create a personalised nativity, including figures to represent your family and friends. * If possible, enjoy a festive meal with family and friends and make a phone call or perhaps take a small present to someone who is alone at Christmas and might appreciate a visit if they will not be offended, invite them to join your family table.
The following is also a very simple method. On a rainy day when there is nothing for your child children to day, gather your child children around you dining table. Teach your child children hoe to plate with wool. Use colors like blue, red, pink, purple etc. Once your child children have plated a band large enough to tie around his here hand, help then thread five colored beads you may like to use these colors, red, white, blue, green, and brown. These colors represent the five elements earth, air, fire, water and spirit. You can use any colors the dissuasions are up to you.
Once the patterns of family interaction (rules) have been identified and compared with desired family reference structure (wants), the family therapist then is ready to begin the second phase of a family therapy session, i.e., evolving the system so the rules will not interfere with the needs of the individual members. Closed systems are created by people who are making the best choices in their model of the world, people who are using the processes of human modeling in the best way they know how. But, unfortunately, they are mistaking the map for the territory, and the result is representations which result in rules about how each member of the family system should act (output channels), think (representational systems) and of what they should be aware (input channels). The gap between the wants and needs of the family members and the family patterns and rules is the result of the modeling processes of the family members. For family therapy to be effective, some change in the way...
Oh gods, whichever of you rule the earth and the human race from the sky What is this uproar Why are all your murderous faces turned upon me By your children, if Lucina came to help your honest birth when called, by this glorious but useless purple robe, I beg you, by Jupiter who is bound to condemn all this, why do you look at me like a stepmother or a beast I have struck with iron The boy made this complaint with trembling lips and stood there, his distinguished clothes snatched away, a youthful body, of the sort that could have softened the impious hearts of the Thracians. Canidia, small vipers entwined in the unkempt hair on her head, ordered wild fig trees, torn up from graves, funereal cypresses, eggs pasted with the blood of the foul frog, a feather of the nocturnal screech owl, herbs which lolcus and Iberia, fertile in poisons, export, and bones snatched from the mouth of a ravening dog to be burned in Colchian flames. Sagana, dressed for action, sprinkled waters of Avernus...
However, it is tempting to think that if someone is hurting animals, children, the sick or elderly, you may be justified in binding them. And what if your partner has deserted you on the whim of passion, taking all the money and leaving you and your children penniless These are very real dilemmas in dealing with them, I have always performed such rituals adding the proviso if it is right to do so.'
In the modern world, concerns are different, but no less urgent, and for many of us still centre on the home, family and employment. We need money to fulfil obligations, help for a child who is studying for exams or perhaps suffering bullying, a partner to share joys and sorrows, better health for ourselves and our loved ones. There are subjects for spells for yourself, your partner or lover, your children, close relatives and friends. They are usually the strongest in terms of emotion and so can be very simply carried out at home, in the garden or on the balcony, often with everyday items.
Although nobody gets a parenting manual or bible in the delivery room, it is our duty as parents to try to make our kids as well rounded, happy and confident as possible. It is a lot easier to bring up great kids than it is to try and fix problems caused by bad parenting, when our kids have become adults. Our children are all individuals - they are not our property but people in their own right.